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👋 Welcome to the 165th issue of Open Loops, a weekly letter on clarity, growth, and building a life that feels like yours.
My name is Reza, and each week I share what I'm reading, building, and working through to help you turn confusion into conviction in life and work.
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To make room for her new book, Anne-Laure cancelled three months of podcast interviews and skipped an event in San Francisco to stay with her family. Good decisions, and they still brought grief for all the versions of herself she'll never get to be. That sadness doesn't mean you chose wrong. A road not taken can still get a small visit: a few piano lessons, or a week in the city you didn't move to.
Mastery is “effort made invisible.”
The people who could help you often don't, because they don't know what you're working on. maja's fix is a short life update, emailed every few months to friends, old bosses and mentors:
Where I am: what changed, and what feels alive
What I'm learning: what worked and what didn't
What I'm wondering: the decisions you keep circling
Where help would help: an intro, advice, or a reality check
Writing it shows you your own situation, even if you never hit send.
“You must unlearn the habit of being someone else or nothing at all.”
Once a hobby has to earn money or prove excellence, it stops being the thing you did for the pleasure of it. Emily Dickinson gardened because she loved it, with no plans to become a botanist.
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Reading the five most recommended leadership books cover to cover takes most people a year. With Shortform, it takes a week.
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Never Split the Difference: how a former FBI hostage negotiator gets to yes
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: the principles behind results that last
The 48 Laws of Power: how influence actually works inside organizations
Each guide gives you the key ideas, real examples, and how to apply them at work.
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If there’s one thing you should remember from this book, it’d be:
Put the cost of a yes on the calendar. Every request asks for a piece of your life, even when it shows up as a quick call or a good opportunity. An offer can look great on its own and still take hours you've already promised to work, people, or rest. The real cost includes the preparation, the travel, and whatever follows you home afterward. Writing all of it into the week where it'll happen makes the trade visible while you can still say no.
Here’s another three:
Give the first reaction time to settle. A tense message can take up far more of a day than the seconds it takes to read. Before the facts catch up, the mind has already supplied a motive and rehearsed a reply. Holiday argues for deliberation over instinct: take the feeling seriously, give the interpretation some time, and if nothing needs deciding now, answer after a walk.
A journal gives an ordinary day somewhere to go. A few lines on paper give a worry a place to sit without handing it to someone else straight away. They also catch what memory drops: a conversation, an irritation, a good afternoon. Read back over a month, the small entries show what keeps asking for your attention.
Define enough in the shape of a day. Being successful enough to relax someday is a target that keeps moving. A good ordinary Tuesday is easier to picture: the hours you work, the people in it, an evening worth having. Holding the next goal up against that day shows whether it would support that life or take more of it.
→ Read my full bookshelf note on Stillness Is the Key.
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Who would gladly help you right now, if they knew what you were working on?
Till next time 👋
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